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Cancer can bring up a wide range of feelings you may not be used to, and they can change from day to day or even minute to minute. All of these feelings are normal. There are healthy ways to cope, and support from loved ones, counselors, and support groups is available whenever you need it.
Cancer can bring up many strong feelings, and all of them are normal.
Learning the facts about your cancer often helps ease fear and a sense of being out of control.
Anger, guilt, and loneliness are common, and having cancer is not your fault.
Expressing your feelings, staying active, and connecting with others can all help you cope.
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All of these feelings are normal
Just as cancer affects your physical health, it can bring up a wide range of feelings you are not used to dealing with. It can also make feelings you already had seem more intense. They may change daily, hourly, or even minute to minute. This is true whether you are in treatment, done with treatment, or a friend or family member. These feelings are all normal.
The values you grew up with often shape how you cope. Some people feel they need to stay strong. Others lean on loved ones, ask for help from counselors, or turn to their faith. Whatever you decide, do what is right for you, and try not to compare yourself with others.
Feeling overwhelmed
When you first learn you have cancer, it is normal to feel as if your life is out of control. Your routine gets disrupted, people use terms you do not understand, and you may feel helpless.
Even so, there are ways to take charge. It may help to learn as much as you can about your cancer and its treatment. The more you know, the more in control you will feel. Ask questions, and do not be afraid to say when you do not understand. For some people, it helps to focus on things they enjoy, like music, crafts, or reading, when they have the energy.
Fear and worry
It is scary to hear that you have cancer. You may fear pain, changes in how you look, or worry about your family, bills, your job, or dying. Some fears come from stories, rumors, or wrong information.
To cope with fear, it often helps to be informed. Most people feel better once they learn the facts, because they feel less afraid and know what to expect. Some studies even suggest that well-informed people are more likely to follow their treatment plans.
Anger
It is very normal to ask "Why me?" and feel angry, at the cancer and sometimes at providers, healthy friends, or loved ones. Anger often comes from feelings that are hard to show, like fear or helplessness.
You do not have to pretend everything is okay. Keeping anger inside is not healthy. Talk with your family and friends, or ask your doctor to refer you to a counselor.
Sadness and loneliness
Many people with cancer feel sad, sensing a loss of their health and the life they had before. People with cancer often feel lonely too. Friends may not know what to say, or you may feel too sick to do things you enjoy. This can happen after treatment ends as well.
Look for emotional support in whatever way feels right, whether that is a close friend, a counselor, a support group, or a member of your faith community. If sad feelings do not get better and get in the way of daily life, talk to your doctor, because this may be depression, which can be treated.
Guilt
If you feel guilty, know that many people with cancer feel this way. People may blame themselves for upsetting loved ones, missing work, the cost of care, or lifestyle choices. Remember: having cancer is not your fault. No one knows why some people get cancer and others do not.
Hope and gratitude
Once people accept that they have cancer and settle into a routine with treatment, they often feel a sense of hope. Millions of people who have had cancer are alive today, and people with cancer can lead active lives, even during treatment.
Some people also feel gratitude, seeing cancer as a "wake-up call" to enjoy the little things. Pay attention to what makes you smile each day, whether that is a good cup of coffee, time with a child, or a talk with a friend.
Gentle ways to cope
- Express your feelings by talking or writing them down.
- Do not blame yourself for your cancer.
- Do not force yourself to be upbeat if you are not feeling it.
- You choose when to talk about your cancer.
- Find ways to relax, like meditation, guided imagery, or relaxation exercises.
- Be as active as you can, with gentle exercise, yoga, or stretching.
- Find hobbies and creative outlets you enjoy.
- Manage side effects, since physical symptoms can affect your mood.
- Look at what you can control, like keeping appointments and setting a daily schedule.
If you ever have thoughts of suicide, dial 911 in an emergency, or call, text, or chat 988 to reach the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
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Common questions
Is it normal to feel so many different emotions after learning I have cancer?
Yes. Cancer can bring up a wide range of feelings you are not used to dealing with, and it can make existing feelings seem more intense. They may change daily, hourly, or even minute to minute. These feelings are all normal.
What can help me cope with fear and worry?
It often helps to be informed. Most people feel better when they learn the facts about their cancer and treatment, because they feel less afraid and know what to expect. You can ask your health care team questions any time you do not understand something.
I feel guilty, as if my cancer is my fault. Is that common?
Many people with cancer feel guilty. But having cancer is not your fault. Scientists do not know why one person gets cancer and another does not. All bodies are different, and cancer can happen to anyone.
What can I do when I feel angry?
It is very normal to ask "Why me?" and feel angry. You do not have to pretend everything is okay, because keeping anger inside is not healthy. Talk with family and friends, or ask your doctor to refer you to a counselor.
Do I have to talk about my cancer if I do not want to?
No. You choose when to talk about your cancer. If you want to talk, you can help loved ones feel at ease by asking how they are feeling. If you do not want to talk about it, it is okay to say that too and let them know when you are ready.
Where can I get help if my feelings feel like too much?
Ask your doctor to suggest a counselor, or ask about online or in-person support groups. If you have thoughts of suicide, dial 911 in an emergency or call, text, or chat 988 to reach the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day.
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